Have you seen this article:
No, I fine. I put pee-pee in toilet
Writing about your daughter’s toilet-training misadventures could net you $40,000 a month and a legion of fans. But some mommy and daddy bloggers are quitting the game in fears that their digital confessions have become exploitation.
If you’re a parent, and you’re a blogger, then go read it! Then once you’re done reading the article, go read the comments. Don’t worry, I’ll wait while you read it…..
Are you back? Good – The article has really made me step back and reevaluate why I blog and the affect it has on my family (my husband and my kids). I’ll be honest, I never gave it much thought before. Sure, I selectively choose which stories to share, for instance I’ll never blog about going away and leaving my house vacant. I never write about work (yes, dear internet, I do work and will be returning in 10 weeks), and I try to never vent about spats I’ve had with friends or my extended family. But my husband and my kids? They’ve been fair game for blog content. Immediately after reading the article I felt guilty – I pictured Sierra in grade 1 being teased by her friends because there’s a picture of her nursing when she was 6 months old. I’ve thought about that potty training picture of her on the potty drinking her bottle. For a long time I’ve been contemplating video taping Brookie scooting around the house on her butt to share with you. Will she grow up with the nick name "Scooter"?
After taking two days to sort out my feelings I’ve come to the decision that NO! My children won’t need hours of therapy because I blog about them. I think they’ll actually like reading the stories about them. It’s like chronicling history. There is no way in 5, 10, 15 years from now I’ll remember these cute day to day stories. In fact, reading this article has now motivated me to write MORE about my kids, so I can remember every detail of how amazing they are, how cute they are, and special they are to me. I want to celebrate every single one of their moments. From birth, to weaning, to potty training, to learning how to ride a bike, I’ll write every detail so that I can share them with them once they are old enough. If, at that time they want me to pull my content down I will, but I bet they’ll love reading how I feel about being their mother. I definitely don’t write this for money. Although I have Google Adsense ads up, I only make pennies a day from them. I don’t write for fame – I have a very small following – not like the big time, full time bloggers (ie: Dooce).
The comments on the article are very obviously written by non-bloggers. People who don’t understand blogging. It’s like non-runners commenting on an article that satirically bashes running. They just don’t get it. They don’t understand what we get out of it. For me it’s an opportunity to record life’s special moments. Often it’s therapeutic, allowing me to work out my feelings. I have a ton of draft posts that have never been posted ’cause I was able to work out my feelings, and realized that I’m not angry about what I thought I was angry about.
My personal favourite is this comment:
Nature Lover from Canada writes: There is only one thing more engaging to the "me" generation than themselves–it is the "mini-me’s". Problem is parents that sit and blog are actually NOT paying attention to their children. You know the old saying "where are the parents." Well their right here in front of you honey, but they are zombified in front of a screen.
Ok – yes my kids are very engaging, but they sure as hell aren’t being left alone while I blog. Right as I write this Baby Brooke is sleeping, and Sierra is doing her nightly daddy bonding time. Now if anything is being neglected in this house it’s housework. I’ll admit I don’t have the cleanest house on the block
But in 30 years from now will it matter if my house is clean? Nope! But it will matter that my girls have their "Dear Sierra" and "Dear Brooke" letters – something I never would have thought about doing if it weren’t for my blog.
So there ya have it folks! I’m a mommy blogger – not getting paid $40,000/month, but I’m going to keep on blogging just like the MILLIONS of other nut-cases out there. If that’s exploiting my kids then so be it! OK – enough about that article – Sierra wants some "Hice Cream" before bed. Good night!
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