An Open Letter to My Facebook Friends

Please stop SPAMMING ME! I absolutely cannot stand when you send out MASS invites to events that are not even remotely interesting to me! Like seriously – invites to dance clubs etc? When the hell was the last time I stayed up past 10? Free cover before 10? I should hope so, because I’m leaving at 10, I need my beauty sleep after all. $2 drinks? Dudes – I’m pregnant and can’t drink! That’s just downright mean! Poker nights… Seriously?

Oh and then there’s the “suggestions”… So-and-so has become a fan of < > and has suggested you become a fan too… So-and-so has added the application < > and has suggested you add it too… Yo folks – if you have enough free time on your hands to be adding these ridiculous applications, games etc… then you definitely have enough free time on your hands to vet out your friend lists and decide who to invite!

With regards to Farmville wall posts etc… Can I ask why? Why do you play these games? Why do you even want to advertise to your entire friend lists that you waste your time playing these games? You do know that potential employers (and current employers) review Facebook right? Do you know that they also see that you waste your time, whether personal free time or not, on Facebook playing these games?

Oh don’t get me wrong – I’m not against Facebook – it’s a very useful tool and has really helped me to stay in touch with you. I really like that even if you change your email address, phone number or move etc.. I can still contact you through there and you’ll notice that I prefer to send you a personal message on there or to live chat. Though wall-to-wall posts IMO are far too public and I really don’t need my employer or co-workers knowing that you and I are planning on getting shit-faced together ok? So please use some discretion. That said, I love seeing pics of you and your kids as they grow up, so please don’t stop posting them J .

Friends, when using Facebook take a moment to consider how you’re portraying yourself and what you really want to get out of it, ok?

Thanks!

Love,
Janice

7 thoughts on “An Open Letter to My Facebook Friends

  1. I play those facebook games – mostly because I find facebook totally useless for anything but the games. They amuse me, they’re time wasters, and frankly, if potential employers didn’t hire me because I spend my free time playing games, I don’t think I’d be heart-broken not to be hired by a company like that.

    While I’ve given part of the world the opportunity to see what I’m up to, it doesn’t apply to the entire world, that’s my choice. And since a lot of my friends there also play these games, my game posts give them a chance to get more points, or gifts, or whatever it is at the time.

    People who don’t play the games on facebook have the opportunity to turn off the game or people notifications, which I do myself because I have over a thousand friends on there and don’t want to see a thousand game notifications.

    The bottom line, I guess, is that this is what I’m using Facebook for, and if others don’t like it, they don’t have to have me there and I don’t really care if they do. It’s nice for me to see what people are up to, but overall, it’s all boring, pictures, games or updates on where they’re going for dinner tonight. I’m just remaining a part of whatever’s current.

  2. Not all of us have to go through life worrying about employers and employment. Some of us don’t have to work, and just have fun and, yeah, play games. Thanks for your judgement though.

  3. rofl I hope I never sent you anything you didn’t want. I am very particular with mine. I DO play several games but any posts I make go only viewable to a list of people who also play and when I’ve decided their time has been served, usually by the next day, I delete the posts. Some people post stuff to my wall for a few games but when I see it I also delete that. No reason it has to continue to be there.
    I also hate the fan pages in and of themselves. I only invite people if it’s something I know they are already interested in or maybe we’ve talked about it or most importantly, if it’s to the fan page for my photography or candles. I really try not to spam.
    As for wall-to-wall and other things, my profile is also private. The only things someone who is not my friend can see is my current profile pic, my name, and should be links to add me as a friend or message me. Oh, and my websites. But if they’re not my friend, they can’t view wall-to-wall either. A lot of people don’t seem to understand that FB has any privacy controls at all and it’s amazing what you can view on some people.
    The mass invites to events crack me up though. Um, no, dude, I live 1500 miles from you I am not coming to your Tupperware party!

  4. Oh, I also want to say what’s with “liking” things like random phrases like “I love the way you smile when you find what you want in the fridge.” It drives me nuts!! My sil thinks she has to like EVERYTHING and is a “fan” of like 6 thousand things… for real!

  5. It’s amazing how many people get so mad at games on facebook. I have never played games on FB, I dabbled in Myspace so I knew they were no fun. I have no qualms if others play them though.

    If you want to hide all those annoying farmville updates I actually made a demo video on how to do this just yesterday.
    bit.ly/aL4Mzm

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