Comments on: And The Good Mom Award Goes To…. http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/ My life is a marathon, not a track meet... Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:00:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: jafer http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135482 jafer Tue, 06 May 2008 09:59:21 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135482 It's not selfish to want some semblance of life too. And this stuff needs to be done - the earlier the better, before they get too stubborn to be able to learn it and too set in their ways (just like adults). I have no answers except keep it up. Keep it up til it works. The hardest part about all this is the guilt that we feel worrying about how the baby feels. <em>jafer's last blog post..<a href='http://www.idiotonastick.com/talk/?p=1247' rel="nofollow">Reservation Road</a></em> It’s not selfish to want some semblance of life too. And this stuff needs to be done – the earlier the better, before they get too stubborn to be able to learn it and too set in their ways (just like adults).

I have no answers except keep it up. Keep it up til it works. The hardest part about all this is the guilt that we feel worrying about how the baby feels.

jafer’s last blog post..Reservation Road

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]]> By: Haley-O http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135478 Haley-O Tue, 06 May 2008 01:15:15 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135478 Omigosh, I FEEL your pain. I'm right there with you today. I had ONE good day, and I felt all "in control." Today showed me! My next post sounds a hellova lot like yours!! Do what I do for the sleeping. I'm having some results (not 100%....) My doctor told me to do this. Put her to bed. Let her cry for 5 mins. Then pick her up and soothe her. Put her back down when you think she's ready (sleeping...?). Let her cry for 10 mins. Then same thing for 15 mins. I don't go beyond 15 mins. Usually he doesn't GET to 15 mins. I shut the door so he can't see the light from my room (where he really wants to be). It's been working pretty well. I'll feed him at midnight if I hear him stirring.... GOOD LUCK! And, you're not a bad mommy for any of this! You're doing your best. We're HUMAN. And, we're going a little crazy from all of this. Totally normal. :) <em>Haley-O's last blog post..<a href='http://cheatymonkey.com/?p=1070' rel="nofollow">Productive? Me!</a></em> Omigosh, I FEEL your pain. I’m right there with you today. I had ONE good day, and I felt all “in control.” Today showed me! My next post sounds a hellova lot like yours!!

Do what I do for the sleeping. I’m having some results (not 100%….) My doctor told me to do this. Put her to bed. Let her cry for 5 mins. Then pick her up and soothe her. Put her back down when you think she’s ready (sleeping…?). Let her cry for 10 mins. Then same thing for 15 mins. I don’t go beyond 15 mins. Usually he doesn’t GET to 15 mins. I shut the door so he can’t see the light from my room (where he really wants to be). It’s been working pretty well. I’ll feed him at midnight if I hear him stirring….

GOOD LUCK! And, you’re not a bad mommy for any of this! You’re doing your best. We’re HUMAN. And, we’re going a little crazy from all of this. Totally normal. :)

Haley-O’s last blog post..Productive? Me!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135477 Michelle Tue, 06 May 2008 01:07:52 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135477 Owen did the same thing...to this day I have no clue what actually worked in the end. We tried everything. I read every book on sleep, took in every piece of advice. Then one day, literally a week before I went back to work, he slept for 5 hours straight...then eight.. Even up to a few months ago he would sometimes wake up once in the night - usually when he had a cold or teeth coming in. I really think he would have done this at this time...no matter what we tried...it was just his time. That said routine helps...at any age. Keep trying...eventually it will pay off. <em>Michelle's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/megoagain/mego/~3/284120458/' rel="nofollow">Job Posting: Communications Co-ordinator</a></em> Owen did the same thing…to this day I have no clue what actually worked in the end. We tried everything. I read every book on sleep, took in every piece of advice.

Then one day, literally a week before I went back to work, he slept for 5 hours straight…then eight.. Even up to a few months ago he would sometimes wake up once in the night – usually when he had a cold or teeth coming in. I really think he would have done this at this time…no matter what we tried…it was just his time. That said routine helps…at any age. Keep trying…eventually it will pay off.

Michelle’s last blog post..Job Posting: Communications Co-ordinator

]]> By: chelle http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135476 chelle Mon, 05 May 2008 22:13:51 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135476 ok for real you are an awesome mom. Can your husband start nighttime routines? You need to do a few things for yourself or you will go batty, for real. My kids never fell for that sleep training stuff. I rocked my girl to sleep until cuddles were enough. Same with the boy. Give it time. Before you know it they won't need us at all anymore :cry: <em>chelle's last blog post..<a href='http://soodz.com/blog/?p=1644' rel="nofollow">FORE!!!!! err FOUR!</a></em> ok for real you are an awesome mom.
Can your husband start nighttime routines?
You need to do a few things for yourself or you will go batty, for real.
My kids never fell for that sleep training stuff. I rocked my girl to sleep until cuddles were enough. Same with the boy. Give it time.
Before you know it they won’t need us at all anymore :cry:

chelle’s last blog post..FORE!!!!! err FOUR!

]]> By: Mike http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135475 Mike Mon, 05 May 2008 12:21:54 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135475 YOUR KIDS ARE VERY LUCKY TO HAVE A MOM AS GREAT AS YOU. My kids didn't. Their mom would ditch them on me, her mom, or about anyone else she could just so she could have her "ME" time when they were not even a month old(as soon as she could get out). If you don't break a few ties before long someone is going to start engraving your name on a door plaque to go on your room with the thick padded walls. It won't hurt them at al to work on getting used to someone else doing things for them. That way they won't always be so dependant on you. YOUR KIDS ARE VERY LUCKY TO HAVE A MOM AS GREAT AS YOU. My kids didn’t. Their mom would ditch them on me, her mom, or about anyone else she could just so she could have her “ME” time when they were not even a month old(as soon as she could get out). If you don’t break a few ties before long someone is going to start engraving your name on a door plaque to go on your room with the thick padded walls. It won’t hurt them at al to work on getting used to someone else doing things for them. That way they won’t always be so dependant on you.

]]> By: Kimmer http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135473 Kimmer Mon, 05 May 2008 11:23:31 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135473 You are so not a bad Mom!! You know, every once in a while Brayden will still cry at bedtime, and he's 2.5 . I can usually tell the difference between the whiny "I want you to cater to me" cry and the "I need to eat/pooh/puke" cry. Kids are creatures of habit, and will adjust when presented with something in a consistant manner. **HUGS** I can't believe you're almost back to work!! You are so not a bad Mom!! You know, every once in a while Brayden will still cry at bedtime, and he’s 2.5 . I can usually tell the difference between the whiny “I want you to cater to me” cry and the “I need to eat/pooh/puke” cry. Kids are creatures of habit, and will adjust when presented with something in a consistant manner. **HUGS** I can’t believe you’re almost back to work!!

]]> By: Much More Than A Mom http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135471 Much More Than A Mom Mon, 05 May 2008 04:40:00 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135471 Aw, I'm so sorry. If it makes you feel better, I've been there. Primo was a puker too and I couldn't do it either. It took a few extra months of nursing to sleep but now that he's too busy to cuddle me 95% of the time I'm incredibly glad I did it. Actually, I miss it sometimes. Sad, but true. Whatever you decide to do, you're still a great mom! <em>Much More Than A Mom's last blog post..<a href='http://www.muchmorethanamom.com/2008/05/03/because-i-care-about-you/' rel="nofollow">Because I Care About YOU!</a></em> Aw, I’m so sorry. If it makes you feel better, I’ve been there. Primo was a puker too and I couldn’t do it either. It took a few extra months of nursing to sleep but now that he’s too busy to cuddle me 95% of the time I’m incredibly glad I did it. Actually, I miss it sometimes. Sad, but true. Whatever you decide to do, you’re still a great mom!

Much More Than A Mom’s last blog post..Because I Care About YOU!

]]> By: Heather (A Mama's Blog) http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135470 Heather (A Mama's Blog) Mon, 05 May 2008 04:36:48 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135470 You are not a bad mom, and your feelings are totally normal. I say follow your instincts on what feels right. My son, sometimes just needed the time by himself in his crib to fuss and work out what ever he was going through, and I could instantly tell when he was doing that, or when he was in actual distress. One thing that hubby & I tried with son #1, (when I was pregnant w/ son #2) & knew Daddy was going to have to get son #1 to bed, was I cuddled w/ him, and hugged him and then left the room. Then Daddy would read a story to R., and have a sippy cup in the room. Then dad would turn out the lights, and let R. suck on the sippy cup. He held him until he fell asleep the first night, and then gradually started moving him into his bed befoe he was asleep. In a week, R. only wanted dad to put him to sleep, not me! It worked great for us, but R. was about 18 months old when we did this. Every baby is different & some may be ready to get themselves to sleep alone, sooner than later, and vice versa. In the end, you know what is best for your baby and yourself. Remember you aren't in jail. If you try something for a few days, and it isn't working, you can stop it for the time being, and try it again in a few weeks. You don't have to stick to something if it isn't working. Hang in there mama! :razz: <em>Heather (A Mama's Blog)'s last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/AMamasBlog/~3/281797713/' rel="nofollow">Four Things Meme</a></em> You are not a bad mom, and your feelings are totally normal. I say follow your instincts on what feels right. My son, sometimes just needed the time by himself in his crib to fuss and work out what ever he was going through, and I could instantly tell when he was doing that, or when he was in actual distress.

One thing that hubby & I tried with son #1, (when I was pregnant w/ son #2) & knew Daddy was going to have to get son #1 to bed, was I cuddled w/ him, and hugged him and then left the room.

Then Daddy would read a story to R., and have a sippy cup in the room. Then dad would turn out the lights, and let R. suck on the sippy cup. He held him until he fell asleep the first night, and then gradually started moving him into his bed befoe he was asleep. In a week, R. only wanted dad to put him to sleep, not me! It worked great for us, but R. was about 18 months old when we did this.

Every baby is different & some may be ready to get themselves to sleep alone, sooner than later, and vice versa. In the end, you know what is best for your baby and yourself.

Remember you aren’t in jail. If you try something for a few days, and it isn’t working, you can stop it for the time being, and try it again in a few weeks. You don’t have to stick to something if it isn’t working.

Hang in there mama! :razz:

Heather (A Mama’s Blog)’s last blog post..Four Things Meme

]]> By: Kim http://www.momontherun.net/and-the-good-mom-award-goes-to/comment-page-1/#comment-135469 Kim Mon, 05 May 2008 03:04:54 +0000 http://momontherun.net/?p=1340#comment-135469 It is so hard to know what to do and how to help our children. They are all so individual and what works for one may not work for another. As a mother who does not do cry it out, I had a hard time finding a way to get my children to fall asleep without me. However, I can not recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution enough. Elizabeth Pantley gives really great advice and it works!!! Hopefully you will find something that works for you and your family. It is so hard to know what to do and how to help our children. They are all so individual and what works for one may not work for another.
As a mother who does not do cry it out, I had a hard time finding a way to get my children to fall asleep without me. However, I can not recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution enough. Elizabeth Pantley gives really great advice and it works!!!
Hopefully you will find something that works for you and your family.

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