How Do You Motivate Yourself When Your Spouse Isn’t Supportive?

Let me start this post by clarifying my husband’s support of my racing:

  • He encourages me to try and be my best.
  • He supports my training as long as it doesn’t interfere with our family life too much. ie: disappearing for an hour on either a Saturday or a Sunday to train is ok, disappearing for 3-4 hours on both Saturday and Sunday is not.
  • He supports me racing nearby 5k’s and 10k’s on a Sunday morning, but doing a 4 hour marathon/triathlon in a city/town that’s a 2-3 hour drive is not ok.
  • He supports me racing once every two months or so, racing every other weekend is not ok.

In all fairness, he is tolerant of my racing, it’s just that I haven’t been able to turn him into a complete push over (yet).

The thing is, I’m starting to feel this desire to race every 3-4 weeks and I’m also feeling this desire to try and do a 1/2 Ironman. I also know that once I’ve done a 1/2 Ironman, I’ll want to do about 2-3 more of them, just to find out what my true potential is.


So I’m trying to figure out how to keep the peace at home, be fair to my family, while still being true to myself. This is not easy. This also means I’m finding it hard to motivate myself to want to put my full effort into my training/nutrition because what’s the point if I can’t race?

Go Mommy Go!

How do you motivate yourself?
How do you balance racing/running/triathlon with motherhood?

One thought on “How Do You Motivate Yourself When Your Spouse Isn’t Supportive?

  1. Whenever I tell my wife I’m going to train for another marathon, I hear a big sigh from her. She knows what it does to me and how much time it takes. I think it was Hal Higdon who said that the first step in training for a marathon is to apologize to the people in your house for what you are about to put them through.

    That being said, I think the thing that helps is to not whine at home about being sore or tired. It’s ok to eat pasta when everyone else is having burgers, but don’t complain that you have to go places with the family when you are dead tired from an 18-miler.

    We all have very busy lives these days. Since we don’t have hours a day when we are sitting staring at the ceiling, we have to give up something when we take up training for a marathon. I just have to make sure I am giving up my free time (less internet, less movies, less games, etc) and not family time when I have to cut something out.

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