I Do EVERYTHING!!!

My mom sent me this today:

I do

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sadly enough it’s true.  I say it time and time and time again: I do EVERYTHING around here!  I can’t remember the last time my hubby unloaded the dishwasher, cooked a meal for us, swept, mopped, dusted, vacuumed, did laundry for someone other than himself etc…  Don’t get me wrong – he’s an awesome hubby and father.  Plays with the kids, gives them baths, puts them to bed etc.  He also makes lots of time for me.  It’s just that housework isn’t even on his radar.

The other day he "forgot" to take the recycling and composting to the curb.  His one main job is the garbage – but I bet he’s done it 3 or 4 times this year!  This isn’t quite as bad as it sounds – he’s spent a month of this year in Ireland, and another week with us in Florida at  Disney, so really that means he’s batting about .500.  But forgetting this week was enough to make me flip my lid.  I went all postal on him, screaming, turning some embarrassing shades of red, and crumbling into a big ball of tears and finally ending with me saying I’m sick of doing EVERYTHING here!  I’m done with it!  So very, very done!

His response?

He put together a schedule (that’s the manager in him).  A plan that allows us the best time management to keep the house clean, spend time together, and keep the kids entertained and happy.  Since he’s only home in the evening it looked a little like this:

  ROB JANICE
6:30 Arrive home
– eat dinner
Play with kids
7:00 Play with kids Clean kitchen
7:30 Give kids a bath Clean living room / basement
8:00 Unwind Sierra (watch Treehouse) Put Brooke to bed
8:30 Put Sierra to bed Fold laundry
9:00 Misc Chores Misc Chores
9:30 Time together Time together
10:00 Bed Bed

See?  I still do everything!  LOL – but now it’s in a chart!  Kidding – it’s true, I have more time to do the stuff ’cause the kids are all over him when he comes home.  He’s such a great daddy that he doesn’t mind, instead he loves it!  It just kills him that he can’t be home with us more.  It kills me too – in a perfect world he’d be outta the house at 8 am and home by 5 pm (oh wait – that’s me!  When I’m working I have the PERFECT job). 

So, dear internets, how do you and your family balance household chores, raising kids, time together, and personal time?  Do you find that one of you do more housework than the other?  How do you combat that?

PS – it’s a gorgeous day here, sunny 22C (2F), both kids fell asleep for a late nap and I’m out on the deck with my laptop, wireless internet and itunes!  Hate me yet?

10 thoughts on “I Do EVERYTHING!!!

  1. That’s a toughie. My husband could make a lot more money at a job that required more hours but he refuses because it’s more important for him to be here. He’s gone from 7:15 – 5 and gets 2 Mondays a month off and many Friday afternoons (flex time). His job is garbage, which I refuse to do so it’s only his. I do almost everything else, but he will change the sheets, clean the cat litter, help with the dishwasher etc, as long as I ask him to. Which he calls nagging occasionally! It wouldn’t get done if I didn’t ask, though! 😉

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  2. That’s a toughie. My husband could make a lot more money at a job that required more hours but he refuses because it’s more important for him to be here. He’s gone from 7:15 – 5 and gets 2 Mondays a month off and many Friday afternoons (flex time). His job is garbage, which I refuse to do so it’s only his. I do almost everything else, but he will change the sheets, clean the cat litter, help with the dishwasher etc, as long as I ask him to. Which he calls nagging occasionally! It wouldn’t get done if I didn’t ask, though! 😉 We take at least 1/2 hour to watch tv or something together at night – that’s one thing we could do better but the kids’ schedules don’t allow it right now. Personal time? What’s that?

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  3. What works for us, is DH is just a great helper. :smile:

    I usually do all the laundry, dusting, and vacuuming. I clean one bathroom, & dh cleans the other one. He helps with cooking, and does all the lawn work.

    I really shouldn’t complain but sometimes it still feels like I do much more than him- I think when we are at home all day and see everything that needs to be done, and we do so many *little* things that never even get mentioned, like taking out trash, cleaning up messes from the kids, etc., I am sure it adds up to more than DH does. But I am not at work for 40+ hours a week either.

    It is hard to find a balance though for sure.

    Oh, and I am still not getting your blog in the Google reader- maybe it is just me, but it never downloads. Just thought I’d let you know, b/c I really like reading your blog. :roll:

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  4. I do everything, till I burn out then nag then he helps then gradually he stops helping then I burn out …. see the pattern? Mine would excel with a chart though! hmm a chart …

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  5. Oh gosh, I do the same thing.
    I usually come home from work and have to clean. It feels like all she does is fun things, going the zoo, going swimming, playing at the park and I have to clean up the mess they’ve made at lunch.
    She says I have to chill out but I can’t deal with messes.
    The other day I was thinking, what would happen if she was working and the boy was at daycare? Well, the answer is there probably wouldn’t be a mess because they wouldn’t be home.
    I usually just put up with it and do my cleaning without saying anything but sometimes I can’t hold in my resentment.
    I have no advice… 😥

  6. Janice, you need to do 1 of 2 things. You can do what these women did – http://www.cbc.ca/thewomenwent/ or you can go on strike. If you decide to go on strike, I’ll be right there with you on the picket lines, ’cause my husband is just as lazy as yours! 😥

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