My mom sent me this today:
Sadly enough it’s true. I say it time and time and time again: I do EVERYTHING around here! I can’t remember the last time my hubby unloaded the dishwasher, cooked a meal for us, swept, mopped, dusted, vacuumed, did laundry for someone other than himself etc… Don’t get me wrong – he’s an awesome hubby and father. Plays with the kids, gives them baths, puts them to bed etc. He also makes lots of time for me. It’s just that housework isn’t even on his radar.
The other day he "forgot" to take the recycling and composting to the curb. His one main job is the garbage – but I bet he’s done it 3 or 4 times this year! This isn’t quite as bad as it sounds – he’s spent a month of this year in Ireland, and another week with us in Florida at Disney, so really that means he’s batting about .500. But forgetting this week was enough to make me flip my lid. I went all postal on him, screaming, turning some embarrassing shades of red, and crumbling into a big ball of tears and finally ending with me saying I’m sick of doing EVERYTHING here! I’m done with it! So very, very done!
He put together a schedule (that’s the manager in him). A plan that allows us the best time management to keep the house clean, spend time together, and keep the kids entertained and happy. Since he’s only home in the evening it looked a little like this:
– eat dinner
|Play with kids|
|7:00||Play with kids||Clean kitchen|
|7:30||Give kids a bath||Clean living room / basement|
|8:00||Unwind Sierra (watch Treehouse)||Put Brooke to bed|
|8:30||Put Sierra to bed||Fold laundry|
|9:00||Misc Chores||Misc Chores|
|9:30||Time together||Time together|
See? I still do everything! LOL – but now it’s in a chart! Kidding – it’s true, I have more time to do the stuff ’cause the kids are all over him when he comes home. He’s such a great daddy that he doesn’t mind, instead he loves it! It just kills him that he can’t be home with us more. It kills me too – in a perfect world he’d be outta the house at 8 am and home by 5 pm (oh wait – that’s me! When I’m working I have the PERFECT job).
So, dear internets, how do you and your family balance household chores, raising kids, time together, and personal time? Do you find that one of you do more housework than the other? How do you combat that?
PS – it’s a gorgeous day here, sunny 22C (2F), both kids fell asleep for a late nap and I’m out on the deck with my laptop, wireless internet and itunes! Hate me yet?