Back when Sierra was a baby I stressed out a lot about being the perfect mom. I had a pre-conceived notion of what a perfect mom was and when things didn’t go perfectly it stressed me out – to the point of anxiety and sleeplessness.
Now that Sierra is 5.5, Brooke is 3.5 and Amber is 3 mos, I’ve begun to lose that idea of what’s perfect. I’ve come to the realization that my job is to keep the kids ALIVE and not be the Martha Stewart of parenting. Some of that has come from disengaging myself from friends who made me feel like a bad parent because oh-my-goodness I allow my kids to eat sugar cereal occasionally, and drink fruit juice without watering it down etc… Those kinds of discussions made me feel less secure and happy, and I’ve decided I don’t need it or the stress of it all, so I took some time and backed away from them. I now have the parenting confidence to realise we all have our different ways of raising our families.
Being a perfect mom is about doing what’s comfortable for you & your family. Maybe that means co-sleeping, maybe that means allowing baby to cry it out. Maybe it means letting your kids watch TV, maybe it means spending the entire day teaching your children about the world we live in. Who knows.
I’m perfect now. We’re all happy, clothed and fed. Maybe I don’t do it the way other people do it, but I’m ok with that, and I think thats what’s most important.