Social Media: Friend or Foe?

I spend a lot of time online. In fact I rarely watch TV! Instead I spend over an hour each night surfing around the web – jumping from social media site to social media site:

NING Communities ie: TwitterMoms
And of course blogs!

I’m sure there are even more sites that I’ve forgotten!

Recently I looked around my insanely messy house and wondered – are all of these social media sites truly a friend, or a foe?

Am I getting more out of it, than I’m losing? What am I getting out of it? Is it merely a boost to my fragile ego to have all of these “friends” and “followers”? Why do I care about all of the “noise” people are making on the web? To be honest, I’m having a hard time figuring out any true personal benefits of social media. So, like the internet addict that I am, I did a quick, informal Twitter Survey to find out what people think are benefits:


” Twitter Survey – what are the benefits of social networking? And I don’t mean on a marketing level, but on a personal level. ”


mammaloves: @momontherun I have made good IRL friends w/ppl I initially met online. And networks like Twitter serve as one-stop info. source.
edhammerbeck: Social nw: I’m still trying to figure out the value. Ideas from people? Like running advice. I’m not a social guy IRL tho’.
tamsul: @momontherun U get to meet people with similar interests as u that u won’t normally get to meet due to locations.
san_dyego: @momontherun Well having 100 followers sure makes me feel loved!
chaoticchitchat: @momontherun personal entertainment lol

So there ya have it: Friends, camaraderie, information, ego, entertainment etc…

But can’t I get all of that elsewhere? Can’t I just PHONE my friends? Watch the news on TV? Spend time with family? Join clubs, read a book etc… ? You bet! ANd I do – occasionally…

Now, on the other side of the fence, what am I LOSING as a result of my infatuation with social media? That my dear friends, is a lot easier for me to brainstorm. Here’s my list:

  • Quality time with my children – in a rush for “me time” and “down time” my hubby and I take turns putting the kids to bed. I wonder, am I really in a rush for “me time” or am I in a rush for computer time?
  • A clean organized house – it’s kind of hard to fold laundry and surf the ‘net at the same time. My house is an absolute disaster!
  • Health – I bet if I wasn’t so darned addicted to the internet I’d have more time to workout, choose healthier snacks, prepare better meals for my family etc… I could be the fit fabulous mommy I want to be!
  • Friends – true, (IRL) in real-life friends, the ones who’ll be there for me in a crisis. I’m ignoring them as a result of my addiction, and I fear the same reason why I don’t call them is the reason why they don’t call me.

Now that I’ve brainstormed the pros and cons of social media, I have to decide which is more important to me, the pros or cons? Truthfully the cons are more important, so I think my new year’s resolution will be to find a better BALANCE between social media and IRL (real-life). If I’m not around as much as I usually am, you’ll know that I’ve doing a better job of spending time with the most important people in my life, my family:


7 thoughts on “Social Media: Friend or Foe?

  1. Awww, there’s that cute photo again! Balance is good (though really you should add to your list ;))

    I have to admit that this is the first evening in two/ three week that I have the energy to blog, read blogs etc. My balance needs more “me” time. Blogging helps me to straighten my thoughts, to keep my head clear.

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  2. I read this on another blog – Balance is a bitch.

    I LOVED it.

    Great post and sorry if I messed up your G rating with the B word. :)

    Great picture of your girls too!

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  3. I’m not so much into the social media stuff, even though I probably have an account for all of them. Those are the things that I find useless, but then I’m used to having a website for over 10 years.

    I guess I don’t mind little snippets of information – here’s what I’m doing this very moment, but half the ones I read, I don’t know what those snippets pertain to so it didn’t help me to read them.

    Every now and then I’ll go to my facebook account, and the only reason I even remember my twitter thingie is because it’s right on my site now.

    Since I’m not a big TV watcher, I can’t imagine doing anything other than being on the computer – it’s just not usually to post what I’m doing every 10 minutes.

    I’d like to have balance too, but I suppose I allow myself my obsessions because I don’t feel guilty about having them, and as far as I know, nobody in my household is suffering from them (probably because we all have the same addictions) :)

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  4. I have never heard of most of the sites you have listed. I guess that’s a good thing. I know I spend too much time on-line!

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